These are a few things that have been playing on my mind for a while that strike me as simeltaneously interesting from a psychological point of view,  but also incredibly irritating when I see people doing them about Facebook/Twitter/Pinterest etc. What do you think, do you do any of these?

1 – Vaguely accusatory, passive aggressive posts/tweets – 

“You know who you are”

“It’s such a shame when people lead other people astray with their bullying”

With social media, you can really take passive aggressiveness to an art form. I mean, why would you waste your time articulating whatever it is that’s pissing you off face to face in an adult manner when you could be getting attention on facebook?

2 – Supporting ‘charity’ on Facebook (armchair activism) –

Clearly I’m not talking about people trying to raise funds for a charity event or walk through Facebook – instead I’m talking about people who perpetuate the BULLCRAP that is Facebook charity campaigns, such as

– change your profile picture to a cartoon character to stop child abuse

– women posting random and stupid statuses (5 inches, teehee) in the fight against breast cancer

– and many more

Where to even begin… HOW in the name of Spock does anyone believe that changing your profile picture to a cartoon character will help raise awareness of child abuse? If the campaign had been genuine, or had actually included any push to raise money for a genuine child charity then it would be a different story. But unfortunately, it’s just a completely empty gesture that – even worse – makes people feel like they’re contributing to solving a problem when that’s absolutely not the case. Grr.

3 – Attention whoring/oversharing – We all know someone who goes a leeeettle bit too far in response to the question ‘How are you?’. You weren’t asking for their life story but you got it. Similarly, there are people who share every detail of the latest misfortune that’s befallen them on Facebook/Twitter, along with passive aggressive/intentionally vague posts. Is it a cry for help or a scream for attention? Like the boy who cried wolf, it can be very hard to tell if you do it every other week.

4 – Chain messages/images –

‘Hit share if you have a dad you love’

‘Hit share if you support the fight against cancer’

‘Share if you are a parent who cares about your kids’

What the actual fuck?! These things are no better than chain letters. Implying that anyone who doesn’t hit share and clog up everyone’s timeline with this crap is an unfeeling monster is ridiculous. And the ironic thing is that hitting share takes about a one second, whereas being a good parent/friend/whatever takes a lot more work. Gah.

These things are always sanctimonious, smug and above all a colossal waste of time.

5 – Bloggers who don’t respond on twitter/comments – EVER –

I looove that social media enables me to talk to bloggers that I admire, even if its just to say hi or say how much I loved their last post. This interaction is what makes Twitter really special. I am so happy that some of my favourite bloggers, like Rosie and Elsie (bloggers always have awesome names) have proved to be awesome on Twitter as well as on their blogs. But there are others, who I won’t name who are less responsive. In fact, they never respond, ever.

To me, the best thing about blogging is connecting with my readers and commenters – I wouldn’t still be doing it if it wasn’t for you guys! So I really don’t get bloggers who ignore their readers. Of course, I understand that some of the most popular bloggers get ridiculously busy and can barely keep up with their tweets, pins, emails and comments, but the best bloggers manage to make it work.

Clearly how you use social media is up to you – do you ever do any of these things? Do you think that Facebook can really raise awareness of causes? What else would you add to the list?

x Kerry